When people say things like “are you gay or are you JUST bi?” or “she has to be AT LEAST bisexual” they are proving that they do not view bisexuality as a complete and full orientation. We’re seen as meeting a “minimum requirement.” Bisexuality does not mean “watered down gay”. We are not diluted. We are complete. And to act as if our relevance and importance are contingent on “how gay” or “how straight” we are is so damaging because we will never be either of those. You are telling us we will never be relevant and important enough for anyone. No, I am not AT LEAST bi. I’m as bi as you can fucking get (which applies to every bisexual/biromantic person) and I’m not interested in being treated like half of a person, thanks.
I feel like this is the cousin of bi erasure, and it’s bi minimization. People acknowledge bisexuality, but see it as fundamentally lesser and hence don’t act like bisexuals have a distinct history, culture, and needs.
PSA: Coming out day
A few of these have been making the rounds on tumblr, but I haven’t seen one that says this yet:
- You don’t have to come out
- You don’t have to feel pressured to come out
- Being in the closet is not shameful
- It’s about protecting yourself
- If coming out will make you exposed to discrimination, rejection, harassment or violence, you are perfectly justified in staying closeted
- If coming out day makes you feel like being closeted makes you a lesser person, don’t
- It’s about survival and self-preservation
- And you are awesome and fabulous no matter how few or how many people in your life know about your identity
I’d just like to tell everyone that I’ve recently become a moderator of bitalks! I encourage everyone to follow it, whether you’re bisexual or just interested in hearing bisexual people’s stories.
I hate when people say “Martin Luther King didn’t die for ___”. No he didn’t, he was MURDERED, he didn’t sacrifice himself for the greater good. He didn’t die for anyone, he didn’t die for a movement, he was literally fucking murdered. His life was taken for standing up for our people, stop trying to romanticize his murder like he planned on dying to make a statement.